By Dr. Susana Marikle, PsyD
Why is it that we feel comfortable asking for support in some areas of our lives, but not others? If we have no idea how to make a minor repair at home, we look for an easy how-to video. If we want to learn to make a new dish, we look up recipes. If we are considering a career change, we reach out to others who have made similar switches. But what is it about more personal issues that make reaching out a bigger challenge? Is it the fear of being judged? The idea that we should be able to handle these things on our own?
The problem with this is that we often need as much, if not more help, when the issues are more personal. The shame and stigma derived from “I should be able to do this by myself” reasoning are hindrances to meeting our health and wellness goals.
This is a time of year when many of us take inventory of our lives and plan new or revised goals for the upcoming year. For lots of people, January 1st will be a fresh starting point. It’s an opportunity to renew our efforts to be the best version of ourselves. Often, our resolutions include goals to live healthier lives. But by springtime, many people who started out with great intentions become overwhelmed because they didn’t reach out for support.
This year, why not share your successes and setbacks with others who understand what you are going through (because they are experiencing it right along with you)? Whether your goals are to drink enough water, exercise appropriately, get enough rest, or cultivate a healthier relationship with your own body – there are others who are coping with a similar set of circumstances. Joining a group of people to whom you can relate and offer mutual support may be just what you need to meet your health and wellness goals this year.